Everyone has worries from time to time. It’s not just exclusive to adults; children have worries too. Some anxiety in children is common and even considered part of growing up. In fact, children have behavioral phases of anxiety they go through before they reach adulthood.
Let’s look at what’s going on in their world:
Kids today are exposed to TV or Internet news like never before. News tends to sell best when reporting trauma, wars, strife, disease, famine, and natural disasters. Not only that, but they like to include graphic pictures with their stories. Do children really need to see dead bodies? You might have been more diligent in shielding your children’s eyes when they were toddlers, but don’t stop until they are truly old enough to handle it.
Kids are more attuned to what is going on in your life than you realize. Do you have problems – financial worries, job worries, medical worries, marriage worries? They not only hear you talk when you think they’re not paying attention, but also can feel it or sense it when you’re uptight or worried. Discussing your problems with others is very therapeutic for you; just make sure there are no little ones within earshot.
Separation anxiety can occur with very young children and may be a result of them realizing you are separate from them and that you have the ability to leave. This usually passes in time.
They may also have phobias at the younger ages. An example of that would be fear of the dark or monsters under the bed. Their imagination is also their reality until they are older and able to discern the differences.
Upcoming major events can cause stress for a child. Starting school, moving to a new home, having a new sister, or parents divorcing are major events. These can definitely cause anxiety in anyone, but especially children who are yet unable to cope with the unknown. Explain new situations as thoroughly as possible to your kids before they happen. If you encourage their questions you will see what their fears are and can help alleviate them.
Even physical illness or trauma can bring on stress. A broken leg for them (or you) changes the status quo and changes bring on anxiety. Again, explain the situation and likely outcome and answer their questions. The anxiety should pass.
It is not always easy to tell if a child is experiencing anxiety. Here are some signs:
* overly clingy
* fears for other family members
* avoidance of social situations
* trouble sleeping
* frequent stomachaches
* repeating the same actions over and over
* very low self-esteem
It’s also hard to know if it’s just a phase or really an anxiety disorder. If you’re unsure or have concerns, seek help. A qualified professional can ease your own anxieties about this or recommend a path of treatment if there is a problem.
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